Actions to take
- Stop over trying.
- Focus on the controllables.
Once you are in these worrying thoughts, it is very difficult to let go. I will be honest with you, no matter what you try, it gets more difficult and irritating to let go of these thoughts.
But it doesn’t mean you can’t try a few different things. If not completely let go, at least control the overthinking. You can dampen your worrying thoughts in so many different ways. Let’s look at three abstract ways.
We are going to focus on ideas and perspectives to look at things. It is all about changing the direction of thoughts by thinking about those thoughts a little differently.
Another important thing is to figure out what it is all about, but that is a topic for another day. Maybe you can try how writing can help.
Here are the three tips to let go of your worrying thoughts.
When a sea turtle is going towards the sea, it stands in place and let the water push it to the shore. When the wave is going back to the sea, the turtle starts to swim and go with the flow. Now it can easily ride the wave and get to the sea.
At times, just like the turtle, we need to stand in place and not resist what is happening in life because it will only drain us. We need to wait for the right direction of the flow to move forward.
It doesn’t mean that you stop trying but you don’t need to obsess over it. Put your energy in the right things and at the right time. Sometimes it means just putting energy to hold in place and that will conserve your energy for the right wave. Riding the wave in the right direction will take you forward without much effort.
What can you control?
There are always things that you can’t control. Maybe it depends on someone else or the randomness of this world.
Don’t focus on the things that you can’t control. If you are worried about something going wrong but you don’t have control over it, you are wasting your time and energy by keeping it in your head.
Let go of the things that you can’t control.
Worrying about it will not fill the hole.
With your mind,
you are in a losing fight.
Do the things that you can control
and focus on getting them done right.
We get disappointed when we have expectations.
It is ok to have expectations, but there is a thin line between having the right expectations and having over expectations. You will have to let go and let the other person take care of things they want. Not everyone has the same way of doing things and you need to appreciate that.
Many a time we have unspoken expectations. When we expect something from someone, we expect it the way we perceive it. Most of the times, it is without communicating those expectations properly to the other person. They have their own perception and that might or might not meet your expectations.
This can be both in personal and professional setup where you are not communicating your expectations clearly and ending up disappointed and worried.
The best way out is to communicate clearly.
The three things are, communicating clearly, focusing on the controllable, and stopping over trying.
It might not work all the time but if you stay a little intentional about working on your worries you can reduce the intensity. Do remember, when you take the worry out of your head, you make room for beautiful thoughts.